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Two Households. ADHD in the House. Let's Get Everyone on the Same Page.
For divorced and co-parenting families navigating ADHD — a structured, evidence-informed coaching engagement that builds consistency across both homes, reduces friction at transitions, and gives each parent a framework that works in real time.
Two Good Homes. One Confused Kid.
ADHD is hard enough in one home. Across two — with different routines, different rhythms, and different ways of responding to the hard moments — it gets complicated fast. Not because anyone is doing anything wrong. Just because two households have their own styles. This is often extra challenging for kids.
Research is consistent on this: children with ADHD benefit significantly from environmental consistency, predictable transitions, and adults who respond to dysregulation with co-regulation rather than escalation. When two households are operating from different frameworks, even well-intentioned parenting can inadvertently increase a child's cognitive and emotional load.
This work is designed to close that gap — practically, collaboratively, and without assigning blame.
This engagement is designed for co-parents who are genuinely trying to work together for their child — not for high-conflict custody situations. If you're not sure which describes your family, the discovery call is the right place to start.
Is this You?
You're each doing your best in your own home. Two good homes with two different styles is completely normal. For a child with ADHD, it's also genuinely confusing — and that confusion has a real cost.
This is right for your family if your child has an ADHD diagnosis (there is ADHD in your house) — or you strongly suspect it — and you're parenting across two homes. You know consistency matters. You know that a little more common ground between households would make a real difference for your child.
You're not alone in that. Most co-parents navigating ADHD feel exactly this way. They just don't know where to start.
The Co-Parenting Blueprint · Four hours. Structured around what actually matters.
Before We Meet
Once you've decided to move forward, Dan sends a discovery form to both parents, which is the foundation for everything that follows. Dan reviews both forms alongside any available documentation — neuropsychological evaluation, school reports, intake — before Session 1. This means the first hour together goes straight to what matters, not to gathering information.
Session 1 — Both Parents Together · 60 minutes
A shared foundation. Both parents arrive having completed the discovery form. Dan arrives having read everything. The session goes straight to what matters: a deep dive into the PAUSE System, a grounded understanding of how ADHD shows up in this child specifically, why the current dynamic is playing out the way it is, and what both households need to know to move in the same direction.
Session 2 — Each Parent Separately · 60 minutes each
Your home, your patterns, honest conversation without an audience. This is where the real work happens. Dan goes deep — understanding your specific environment, your patterns in the hard moments, your strengths as a parent, and what individualized coaching looks like for your household specifically. This is not a check-in. It's a deep dive.
Session 3 — Both Parents Together · 60 minutes
Dan brings it all together. Recommendations for each household, the shared non-negotiables, and what changes will make the biggest difference for your child. Both parents hear it at the same time. No version differences. Shared buy-in from the start.
Session 3 may be conducted as two individual 30-minute sessions if that better serves the family.
Within 72 Hours
A written Co-Parenting Blueprint — strengths-based, household-specific, and actionable. What's working in each home, where the friction lives, tailored ideas for each household, and the shared non-negotiables your child needs to experience consistency across both homes. Each parent receives their own individual next steps.
Co-Parenting Blueprint · $1,997
Four sessions. One document. Everything you need to move in the same direction.
Written shared framework · individual next steps for each parent · delivered within 72 hours.
For families navigating the complexity and cost of divorce, this is one of the highest-return investments you can make for your child.
For Referring Professionals
If you're a psychologist, family therapist, or mediator working with a family navigating ADHD across two households — this engagement is designed to complement, not replace, the therapeutic work already underway.
Dan works from a coaching and educational therapy framework, grounded in the PAUSE People System and Peg Dawson's executive function research. He does not provide therapy or psychological services. What he provides is a structured, practical framework for both households — one that translates clinical findings into daily life, supports consistent implementation of accommodations and strategies, and reduces the friction points that most often surface at home and at school.
Referrals are welcome. Dan is glad to coordinate with treating clinicians where appropriate and with family consent.
Why Dan — and Why This Is Personal
Dan Leibowitz, M.Ed., M.S.Sped., C.E.T. is a credentialed teacher, certified educational therapist, and co-creator of the PAUSE People System — with three decades supporting students with ADHD, learning differences, and executive function challenges, and the families raising them.
He's also a divorced dad who has parented between two homes. He knows what Sunday night transitions can feel like. He knows what it's like to want more consistency for your kid and not be sure how to build it across two different households. He's been on every side of this — as an educator, a coach, and a parent.
That's not a small thing. It's why this work exists — and why it's different from anything else you'll find.